By: Sohel
Winning your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend back is not that difficult. The tough part about the relationship is that keeping them. But don’t forget that they left you once and they may leave you again. But what is the point in getting back when you can’t keep them? So today, in this post, we have divided the process of getting back your ex into 5 steps so that you can clearly understand each step and follow easily to get your ex back.
There are some common mistakes that people make over and over in their relationships. So having a plan will not only help you in reducing the confusion but also gives you a sense of direction. In situations like when you are not so sure about yourself, your ex, or your relationship, a good directed plan will provide you something to always look forward to. This post is all about the mistakes that people should avoid in the process of getting back with their ex.
Since this is a lengthy plan, I recommend you to read the entire article as it will not only assist you in understanding what you should do but also why you should do it. But before proceeding to what you should, first I am going to tell you the mistakes you should avoid.
Mistake 1 — Calling or texting them all the time
No matter which country or continent you belong to, 70% people around the globe are completely desperate to get their ex back and because of that desperation, they tend to text and call their ex-girlfriends or boyfriends all the time. But the mistake people are doing is calling and texting them. It’s a big mistake. You might feel that is you stay in contact regularly with your ex then they will feel you are still always and will back come to you.
But this is a pure myth. Things won’t work that way. Every time you call or text them, you are giving them signs that you are a needy person and are highly desperate to get them back. This kind of desperateness is not at all attractive and takes your ex away from you. You might be wondering how you are going to get back with your ex if you don’t don’t call and text them but unfortunately you end up making fool out of yourself.
Mistake 2 — Pleading them 24/7
If pleading or begging had worked, then there would be no breakups or failed relationships. If they decided to leave you, then no sort of begging or pleading would change their mind. Whatever the reason that caused your breakup, it is not going to change your ex’s mind. The only possible thing that could do is that make you look like a weak and insecure person.
But trust me, no one ever took their ex back out of pettiness. No one is ever smitten to someone who is so desperate and miserable. Let them come to you.
Mistake 3 — Letting them walk all over you
You may feel that if you just admit to every little thing that your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend wants, then they may come back. You might also feel that your needs, wants, and ambitions don’t matter and the only thing that matters is your ex and ways to get back to her.
Just because of feelings, if you let your ex walk all over you then you become nothing but a doormat for them. You will have to agree to the silliest demands whatever you ex has. But guess what? Agreeing to every single thing will only make you look like a fool and it is not going to bring your ex back.
Mistake 4 — Showing them with love and affection
Showering your ex with love and affection and showing them how much you love and care about them definitely are not the ways to get your ex back. What you need to do is make-believe them that no one is better than you in loving them and understanding them. It is nearly impossible for your ex to reject you once they understand how much you love them.
Mistake 5 — Spying on them
The thought of getting your ex close to someone itself is so scary. But in reality, it is not that worse as we pretend it to be. The fact you need to understand is that if your ex is seeing someone else then let her/him. Because it is just a rebound relationship. Sooner or later, they will get it over with. And it is the way people deal with breakups. Just because they are in a rebound relationship doesn’t mean they will forget about you. Think like they are having a difficult time moving on and because of that they are in a rebound relationship.
The essential thing for you to do while your ex seeing someone or in a rebound relationship is to be cool and calm. Whatever happens, try to stay cool and never ever tell your ex to break up with their rebound partners. Let it be your ex idea. After you left, they are trying to fill their place with someone else. They will soon understand that any sort of rebound relationship cannot fill the emptiness in their life.
In case, you already made these mistakes then stop continuing and don’t beat yourself over it again and again. The most important thing for you to do is to understand that these mistakes will not at all help you in getting them back in any way.
The points what you should understand is why your ex-broke up with you in the first place. Knowing that will help you in getting back your ex. If you have any other tips and advice to our fellow readers, then please let us know by commenting in the section below and help them to get back with their ex-boyfriends and girlfriends.
