Story by : BluSatire
When it comes to relationships these days, the rules of the game have certainly changed. I’m a firm believer that dynamics of relationship depend on the two people in it, and there is no instruction manual on how to make it work. But some things are just getting confusing when it comes to dating.
Being a single man in his 20s, Dating has so many new rules and regulations that just override what we were once told how to go about it. I don’t know what to expect anymore, because with every person its something different. Hell dating looks like relationships these days mainly because people seem to forget commitment exist these days.
What Happen to Courting?
Courting, y’all don’t even know what the hell that means do you? When was the last time you ever heard that word used in a sentence? You probably haven’t and thats just the reality of today. The younger you are, the more likely the act of courting is on your mind. Courting is the act of pursuing someone with the sole goal of seeing if you are compatible for marriage.
Now I could give you the biblical definition of courting, but we all know aint nobody doing that these days. That definition includes no touching, no kissing, and definitely no sex, before marriage. Naw we will go ahead and talk about the modern age term and just leave the restrictions to no sex. That one restriction is one main reason, courting does not exist today. In all honesty most people won’t like the restrictions that courting places on the fun parts of relationships. It maybe is too traditional for this generation. It is a public acknowledgement, and we all know that we love to hide who we are involved with until its OFFICIAL. Courting – The man takes the lead.
What Happen to Dating exclusively?
Of course with dating casual it is meant to weigh your options , But are we ever moving past that dating stage?
We never really know what we want, or we never know what we have when its right in front of us. We tend to rule out everything when someone is not perfect. And I know we all have preferences and we like what we like, but sometimes what we like don’t like us.
We don’t want to waste our time with a possible failure, so we continue to drag on and carry these people on for as long as possible. Are we really that afraid and hurt from our past to commit to one person. People are dishonest with their motives and continue to carry people along for the ride. Yet some people know and want more hoping change will come soon. Why would we commit to one person, when we are enjoying that single life getting relationship benefits from multiple people? Which leads to my next two questions.
What Happened to Leaving Room for Imagination?
With all those benefits and fun and sex, why would I commit? Why buy the cow when I can get the milk for free? I don’t know anyone who is buying cows these days, but that saying is pretty true. We are giving so much to people without commitment and the end goal of marriage, that many see no reason to commit. This doesn’t apply to everyone, but some people can lose interest real quick when you show all your tricks to multiple people with minimum work required. ….
Stop making a relationship about what you get and start making it about what you give, for what you give is what you’ll get in return.”
― Rob Liano